OFFENSIVE EXECUTION
People say that defense wins basketball games but I disagree. On the real, if you don’t score points you won’t win. In the NBA, the athletes are so athletic, so talented that you have to have a strategy for getting around guys, isolating situations that present an advantage. When the Denver Nuggets play the Lakers, the plan is to prevent the Lakers from dominating inside the paint with Pau Gasol and Andrew Bynum. On the other side, you know what the Lakers are trying to do and it all starts with the “Mamba” (#24).
But an old rap song called “Everyday Struggle” reminded me of something yesterday as it depicted the hardship of growing up poor in the inner city. It’s no secret that a sordid array of menacing pollutants plague our communities. And in every community resides sages admonishing the young people to straighten up and fly right. Enter the offensive execution parallel. The revelation from the song for me was that my job with all this character mumbo jumbo is to help people hear their own voice advising themselves. In other words, Mrs. Simpson up the street could have told you a million times to be honest, stop running with those miscreants, to leave those drugs alone, etc. Nevertheless, a quick nod and “Okay, Mrs. Simpson” and the kid is right back at the shenanigans.
If people are going to transform who they are, who better to speak the words of wisdom than themselves. There’s much to be said for helping people acquire their own voice. Prescribing and demanding that people change doesn’t seem to be working, likely because of how OFFENSIVE prescription can be. But what if Mrs. Simpson asked that young fella some questions that reveal motive? What if she asked, “Are you afraid of being poor for the rest of your life? Afraid of the gangs? Afraid of being laughed at?” I’m always amazed at how much can be revealed by a well EXECUTED question. And there’s something about hearing your own voice speak truth about your own life that makes it resonate. The truth is always offensive; that’s a truth in and of itself and I’m fine with it. But if it can be executed through God’s gift of reflection so that we hear ourselves speaking it, fly right we will.
Very true and I agree, Norman. However, there is something to say about developing relationships that foster that type of truth. Mrs. Simpson may not have had that relationship with the boys so her questions to them would have been blown off. It is about relationships that allows you to see past the mask we put on each morning and get to the nitty gritty that will change our world.
Victor
I think that’s the hard part about communicating to people in crisis. You run the risk of being blown off. But maybe the risk is worth it. When people are prompted to answer pointed questions even the blow off or the reluctant answer is proof that the wheels are turning. That individual is now doing the mental sweating and consulting the truest voice they have. I think god gives all a true voice and it’s the one we hate to hear because we know it’s sincere. I used to blow off what people said but much of it resonated with my true voice and that’s why I found advice annoying.