Letting Go as Art

There came a time last summer when former Laker assistant coach Kurt Rambis had to either stay a Laker or fly to Minnesota to become the newest head coach for the Timberwolves, a rebuilding NBA franchise. I recently resigned from teaching and if my count is correct, this makes the fourth place of employment from which I’ve resigned since 1998.

In 2004, I began substitute teaching while experimenting with professional basketball for the last time. 2004 was turbulent having left the formal ministry and met the woman who would become my wife. Subbing turned into teaching at a private school which led to teaching at a high school. Education was my state sanctioned profession until yesterday when my latest resignation became official.

Every place I’ve left has been a difficult departure but my bosses ruled with open hands in most instances. The open hand means your palms are facing up as a leader and you’re not holding onto the person headed out the door. Essentially it’s the “No Hard Feelings” sentiment that leaders undoubtedly have to grit their teeth and say. I’ve learned from my own odyssey of employment that when the shoe fits, I’ll need to let go of employees who feel called somewhere else. Phil Jackson coaches the Lakers and doesn’t want to do it much longer. The heir apparent now works in Minnesota.

The moral is basic and terribly unselfish. Gracious leadership is the only leadership. I always thought leaving a place denoted desertion, bailing out or something equally as non-committal. But under proper circumstances, I’ve watched as seasoned leaders LET GO with Open Handed excitement. One day it will be my turn and test to let go.