REAL FREEDOM

Since we’re on this freedom bit today (in the United States), it’s a good reason to consider the notion of ultimate freedom. The historical Jesus once had a hard time convincing some people in an audience that they were slaves to their own vices. These same people got into this exchange with Jesus and hurled insults on par with “yo momma” cracks. They called him a son of fornication (love child), a demon possessed lunatic and then attempted to stone him to death. And the irony is that he was just trying to say that while the truth is specific and beyond our pay grade, we all have a way into it. But ain’t nothing worse than trying to save a person “who don’t need no savin’.”

Truth and freedom make a tandem, package deal, the ultimate buy one-get one. The truth is a grounding element and freedom accompanies it because perspective is what gives meaning to where you are today and where you will be in a year. Goals, plans and destiny all hinge on an understanding and acceptance of truth. Truth is non-negotiable and that “truth”  about truth is why on this July 4th we do well to revisit the fact that freedom comes from discipline. And while the temptation remains on a daily basis to set out on the path of least resistance, the truth is that we must contend for an inner pronation toward what sometimes may seem like rigid guard rails.

This is the day where patriots remind us of the cost of freedom. Violence has preceded every freedom we enjoy. And the freedom to live a righteous life is just that…a privilege.  It’s neither a  straight jacket nor a pair of hand cuffs. We have become experts at defending our right to be wrong, our prerogative to live wanton, hedonistic lives. Freedom is not found in doing whatever the heck we want. Your nemesis would have you believe just the opposite. But let today remind you to stand up for your own emancipation from yourself. Blame yourself for something, submit to truth, purify your motives and get on with life the way it was intended. Today could be the day you become a slave to God’s truth unlocking the door to a freedom you didn’t know existed.

1 LEG 1 HEART

Anthony Robles is not amazing because he won a National Championship in wrestling for Arizona State University after posting a 36-0 season. He’s not even amazing because he did that despite being born with one leg. I heard him interviewed this morning on “The Herd” with Colin Cowherd and I found him amazing because he got my attention when he said, “People with so-called disabilities just do things differently.” How many times have you heard that? But now I get it and it sucks that it took a national champion to prove this statement’s truth.

Why is there one way to be a champion, a competitor? Why do we apply monikers like “he’s pretty good for a guy with one leg”? He’s not an exception either because ESPN once did a special on another dynamic young man who wrestles with no legs at all. At any rate, none of the typical excuses or conditional applause works for Robles because he’s not good for a man missing an appendage. He’s dominant and a case-study in resourceful adaptation – proof that maladies present opportunities to find new ways to thrive. There’s more than one way to become a victor.

WHAT’S YOUR PRICE?

I’m sitting in Chipotle (Fresh Mexican Restaurant) talking to a young guy about his stay in the United States. He’s from somewhere else. He’d rather be home in the somewhere else. But he’s here because people in the somewhere else think it beneficial that he stay here just now. He’s unhappy.

I saw a movie recently in which two men traveled across country for $40,000. I’ll spare you the details of the flick but needless to say they went through things I wouldn’t endure for $40K. On to real life, I’ve run into a fair amount of wealthy men in the last five years who have that “I feel like a slave” look on their faces. And I’m fully aware that us non-rich tend to apply these piñata like metaphors carelessly assuming that rich folk are without substance and character. I wouldn’t dare assume that. But the universal theme of being bought rears its head in professional sports if you’re ever close enough to look a veteran pro in the eyes.

I saw a man recently who makes good money playing basketball and he had the countenance of a man who had shaken hands with Tom Walker’s devil. He looked as though he felt compromised as a man, as a human and as one created for unfettered devotion to only one God. I talked to this man and marveled at how someone with my dream job dwelt in the tension of ultimate financial security and self-respect. As you recalibrate today, consider your price.

LEBRON TALK

When the mighty Heat fell to Dallas in six games, the pundits lay in wait to seize upon the controversial Lebron “King” James. People love a tragedy and particularly the demise of someone touted as indisputable. So it was the perfect fodder mixture for a tantalizing afterglow of this year’s NBA Finals because “HaterAde” is a real drink. I listened to one critique of Lebron in which an ESPN analyst said Lebron would regret the words he said about NBA fans who have rooted for his failure all year. But as I listened and rewound I didn’t hear what he said that was regrettable. To paraphrase Lebron’s response to the question, “How do you feel about fans who root for you to fail?” he said something to the effect that those people still have to wake up tomorrow with the same problems they have today. My success or failure won’t affect that.

These words were spun and the dudes doing the spinning weren’t believers in what they were propagating. They were just doing what they get paid to do. After all, was Lebron wrong? Quite the contrary. He was dead on and while he’s done and said questionable things publicly that reek of arrogance, he could have said much worse things about his naysayers. How’s he supposed to feel when your villain factor rises by the second. You could see the defensiveness in his body language. But if you’ve ever been a journalist you know, there are questions you want to ask and questions you have to ask. Nobody makes a dollar out of 15 cents like reporters and that’s a skill that cuts both ways. Writing is a potentially colorful and rich experience that invites people to participate in worlds otherwise unknown to them. It’s also a great tool for gaining insight. But as the NBA is clearly a business so is the press room. Lebron and his cohorts will likely be still playing in June of 2012 but right now they are the ones donning the black hats in this western. So be it. Sometimes the people who liked you decide they don’t. All the more reason to develop your post game Lebron. Basketball and its fame make for a fun and gratifying profession but on the other hand, they make terrible gods.

EVER SINCE THE 7-MILE WALK

…it seems like everyday is met with a demand for tenacity. It’s as if the world possesses opportunity but won’t relent until you contend for it. You ever notice how difficult a task becomes when you finally decide to do it? Flashback to last week. My blog “Why the 7 Mile Walk” was about how I needed a phone charger while in Maui and ended up walking seven miles to find one only to find that I already had one with me. There were plenty of insights that readers offered at my request as to why I had to do such a strenuous act of redundancy. One of the insights that stuck was from a family member who sent me a Facebook message to the effect that I did all that walkin’ for others, not for myself. She said,

“it seemed like why did u have to do it, well u had to do it to help someone like me understand u truly have to work hard an the road isn’t easy but will get u the result.”

I love social network English. What she said spoke so clearly to me though. Seems like when I made up my mind to apply to a doctoral program, all hell shifted it’s attention to me. When I finally bought a laptop, when I finally decided to go back to playing basketball, when I resolved to confront people, strange impediments revealed themselves. Is this happenstance? Doubt it. But regardless, you’ll have to toughen up. Perhaps the difference between thinking about advancing and actually doing the detail that will advance you is immeasurably vast. There’s a fair amount of naivete involved with mulling over a life change because thoughts cost you nothing. It’s when time and energy begin being spent that we question the value of the pursuit because it’s harder than anticipated. But like my little cousin told me, the long walk is bigger than you to begin with. The limitation of our thinking is that we associate the dreams we chase with our own happiness when really that happiness should be connected to the fact that others are going to find hope in your resilience and relentlessness.

MORE THAN A JONES

I hope Lau doesn’t take me to court for using his image in a blog. He was one of about 40 young people who attended NBC Basketball camp in Maui May 30 – June 3 and he truly maximized the time. He was part of the reason I now classify basketball as a need rather than recreation.

BASKETBALL MAUI

Basketball and Maui never had a connection for me prior to this year. I showed up on the island last year in 2010 and was just glad to be in the 808 area code. But this year the entity known as Basketball Maui took on an identity through the young people it attempts to serve. When you peel back the layers of mesmerizing scenery, there is dysfunction and sadness that stems back to long before Hawaii was one of these United States. Here, for reasons unknown to me, high school graduation rates are in the 50 percent range. This statistic reeks. But all that aside, I use basketball to teach character because basketball is fun even when it doesn’t have to do with sill mastery.

I picked up on this truth today as I coached a group of girls who just joined camp today. They play for Lahaina Luna High School and they were laughing, eating, playing hard and contending on every possession during the tournament. There was another young girl named Taylor who had come on vacation to the camp. She was there most of the time but at other times she was with mom and dad seeing the sights and experiencing island culture. A kid named John has been at camp everyday and keeps asking me for my shoes while another kid, a mainland transplant, dislocated his shoulder momentarily. All walks represented myriad facets of what it means to be a teen. And of course that took me somewhere else – to a realization that there’s more to life than basketball though basketball is likely the best means by which I could ever hope to learn about who I am. I don’t think I still think of basketball as an end-all but when you see the vast array of kids with their problems, obstacles, fears and the like you see into their soul. They’re no longer merely human. They are complex organisms who constantly think, feel and cope with their reality. They’re in motion every second and yet still impressionable, still hopeful and frighteningly transparent.

Today was a good day and largely because I do feel some validation when kids respond to compassion. Who wouldn’t feel better after young athletes have spent all day in a gym sprinting, lining up, self-correcting, sliding in their defensive stance, etc. Plus my friend Joe brought his little girl Faith (6 years old) today and for no reason at all this afternoon, she just came over and gave me a hug.